You know those times when something is just a little bit out of balance in your life? Well for me lately it’s been finances. I’ve invested money on coaching, getting my businesses up and running and let’s not forget the travel. Yep, I LOVE my travel. But it has all come at a price, literally…
A few weeks ago I had been working by the lake and it had started to rain. I love to get outside by the lake in the sun and even though it was raining I still sat there, did my work and made some calls. It was then that it really hit me: ‘Wow I haven’t been this ‘poor’ financially since living at home with Mum and Dad a few years ago, after moving home from the Gold Coast’.
I had just arrived back from a Caribbean cruise a few days before and fear was crippling me… Fear about my businesses and what if they don’t continue to grow and what if all this money doesn’t come in, what if I’m not worthy, what happens if I am successful. I had a fair amount of credit card debt and zero savings, well that’s a lie, I had 2 cents! I kept thinking what am I going to do? And it was then at the traffic lights when inspiration and a huge sense of gratitude hit! It gets you at the weirdest times. So I started recording this blog.
I thought, you know what, I am so happy at the moment. I have every single thing that I need. I have beautiful friends, a beautiful family, a roof over my head, food, clean water… I was only the day before that I had been reading about gratitude being the antidote to fear. I had heard it over and over and had previously thought, ‘what a wank’ to be honest. But it is so true. I felt so incredibly grateful because Mum and Dad were coming to visit and they were bringing a lounge and food and were helping me with my veggie garden and photos for my new website.
Woo Hoo we have baby carrots! But… I had planted them all so close together. Ops, rookie error! However, they were still growing. They were a little oddly shaped, as they had adjusted and grown around each other. The leason here…Just like the carrots, we are resilient, and can grow around any obstacles thrown at us. It’s just a choice.
So, would it be helpful to know what I have done to get through this sticky financial time? OK, here it is…
- FAITH/SELF-CARE: It is probably the last thing you want to hear ‘everything will be ok’. But it is true, I have just made myself believe that. How?! Easier said than done right! I have upped the self-care anti and really focused on manifesting abundance (more on that in number 3). That said, if you do find yourself focusing on the negative, don’t beat yourself up. A few negative thoughts are not going to attract the negative straight away, it is constantly being in that lower energy and always focusing on the negative that will do that. Be gentle with yourself. Just do things that fill you up and make life simple (journal, walk in nature, long baths, time with people you love, ask for help). I actually felt liberated by not buying things all the time, but filling myself up from the inside and not worrying about that material worth. I’ve set a goal… no new clothes/shoes until 2016. I’m killing it so far!
- GRATITUDE: (See start of post) Be grateful for what you do have. Each morning I journal and write 5 things I am grateful for.
- EDUCATION: I invested in Christie Marie Sheldon’s Unlimited Abundance 12 months ago, which I did then (it helped a lot) and I decided to revisit the recordings. It had really helped me to manage my fear, to not give energy to the negative, but to the positive, and what I want, not what I don’t want. I have now set reminders on my phone that come up every few hours saying ‘what would it take to… (have the next steps show up for me to earn $x)’. Already I have seen it manifest, one small example, I saved money on an appointment that afternoon.
That said, if you do find yourself focusing on the negative, don’t beat yourself up. A few negative thoughts are not going to attract the negative straight away, it is constantly being in that lower energy and always focusing on the negative that will do that. Be gentle with yourself. Just do things that fill you up and make life simple. I actually feel liberated and not going and buying things all the time, but filling myself up from the inside and not worrying about that material worth.
A great way to help ‘defuse’ the negative thoughts (not get rid of them – we can never truly do that) can be found in the book I am reading at the moment – ‘The Confidence Gap’ By Dr Russ Harris.
- ACTION: People often think if I do the work, then I will reward myself. This leads to burn out and at times resentment towards our work, ‘cause we never seem to get to the reward, the work continues to build up. I have really switched this lately (again back to filling my cup up first, so that life knocks don’t bowl me over, but just throw me off balance for a moment). That said, there is nothing like getting off your butt and doing the work! It is all well and good to set the intention, but then spending the whole day painting in the sun, is not going to make you the money or closer to your goals (unless you are an artist)! Write down the top 5 priorities that you need to get done TODAY to get you closer to your goals. Is it easy to do? Yes. Is it easy not to do? Yes (check out Jeff Olson’s ‘The slight Edge’ for more tips on the small daily wins).
If you want to chat about your money woes and how to bounce back, book an appointment with me: firstname.lastname@example.org.