No doubt if you are a human being you are in many different relationships…

No doubt if you are a human being you are being tested in them? At some point or another. Or over and over!?

On our coaching mastermind yesterday we were talking about how relationships are our biggest lessons. Aint that the truth!

And you might have heard me say or write – ‘nothing has meaning except the meaning we give it’?

This cannot be more true with our relationships.

So what if we thought it to be true that our relationships are there to teach us?

To call us into our greatness…

To challenge us to step up…

To better ourselves…

To rise above…?

To get the lesson (no matter how many times we repeat the same relationship cycles)…?

What if we made those challenging relationships mean any of the above? How different would our response to life and said relationships be?

Instead of saying – ‘Oh why me… Why doesn’t my brother/friend/mother/aunt (fill in the blank) talk to me? Why does my sister/ dad/cousin talk to me like that? Why are they so stubborn!?’

What if we asked a higher quality question? When we do we get a higher quality answers…

What is the situation teaching me?

Where/what can I learn here?

What can I do more of? Better? Different?

We cannot change another person, or a situation, but we can definitely change how we see them/it, and also choose our thoughts which leads to our behaviour!

So today here is a new one for you – ‘The person with the most flexibility in their thinking and behaviour has the greatest control and influence over any situation’!

What we know is that our thoughts become our actions. So what if we thought a little differently about these relationship challenges, and what if we decided to ask ourselves those higher quality questions of what can I do more of? Better? Different?

Ultimately we can control and influence the situation!

Does it mean that all relationships from here on will be rose coloured? Definitely not? Isn’t this manipulative? Absolutely not!

It is about being flexible in our thinking and behaviour to get the best outcome for all, yes all. Both parties.

Does it sometimes mean biting our tongue, or walking away, or lengthening the rope in certain relationships? Maybe…

Only you will know.

Next time you are faced with a challenging relationship or situation, remember these two points.

‘Nothing has meaning except the meaning we give it’.

And;

‘The person with the most flexibility in their thinking and behaviour has the greatest control and influence over any situation’.

Hugs,